Question
(04/19/2011):
Title:
My girlfriend has lost her interest in having sex .
We have
problems, my girlfriend has lost her interest in having sex and when
I ask her what's wrong she says she does not know what is wrong with
her.
She
does not feel it anymore and she is not doing it on purpose, what
could be wrong with her because it's been 2 months now.
Answer:
Psychological
causes for the loss of libido are:
-Serious
relationship problems with her partner - women's sexual interest is
often tied to the quality of the relationship with her partner.
-Difficult
living conditions or lifestyle - for example, managing both a career
and children, living under the same roof with parents or parents-in-law,
etc.
-Depression
and anxiety - these two factors can really oppress sex drive. Additionally,
there are many medications that are prescribed to combat these conditions
but affect negatively women's libido.
-Stress
and overwork - it may be hard to provide for the bills that pile up
but financial worries and distress can result in low libido.
-Past
or current physical, emotional, or sexual abuse - such traumatic experiences
may lead to avoidance of sex.
There
is no simple pill or potion to increase sex drive in women. In fact,
most women benefit from a multifaceted treatment approach aimed at
the many causes behind this condition.
This
may include sex education, counseling, lifestyle changes and sometimes
medication.
Healthy
lifestyle changes that can make a big difference in her desire
for sex are:
-Exercise.
-Stress
less.
-Be happier.
-Strengthen
your pelvic muscles.
Relationship
changes that you and your partner can make are:
-Communicate
with your partner.
-Seek
counseling.
-Set
aside time for intimacy
-Add
a little spice to your sex life. Try a different sexual position,
a different time of day or a different location for sex. If you and
your partner are open to experimentation, sex toys and fantasy can
help rekindle your sexual sizzle.
Medications
aren't always necessary to treat low sex drive. But the following
medications can help:
-Estrogen
therapy. Systemic estrogen therapy - by pill, patch or gel - can have
a positive effect on brain function and mood factors that affect sexual
response. Local estrogen therapy - in the form of a vaginal cream
or a slow-releasing suppository or ring that you place in your vagina
- can increase blood flow to the vagina and help improve desire. In
some cases, your doctor may prescribe a combination of estrogen and
progesterone.
-Testosterone
therapy. Male hormones, such as testosterone, play an important role
in female sexual function, even though testosterone occurs in much
lower amounts in women.
